When a Muslim Mother loses a Child

As always I am awed when I meet women and mothers who have suffered themselves and then find it in the hearts and lives to want to change things to ease the suffering of others.  Here is just such a woman, who has lost two children herself but has yet found the strength and compassion to ease the suffering of others.  I commend her story and her work to my friends.  If you are in touch with women who may need the support of Rezvanna’s charity, then feel free to contact her.

Every blessing.

Rezvana says:

Children are regarded as one of the most precious gifts for every parent to hold, love and cherish. The loss of a child is no doubt the most difficult experience for any parent to face. The pain of child loss, however, is one that may never heal as I have learnt over the years.

I lost my son Hashim 8 years ago and Haider Ali just over a year ago. However parents like myself are looking for ways in which to learn to live again and face the reality of life. The feeling of strength, courage and patience is tested daily. During the time of heartache and soul searching, spiritual guidance can be the answer to many lingering questions as I have experienced.

At the time of my bereavement I was offered support by the health professionals and on a number of occasions. However I felt they did not cater for my faith beliefs therefore I declined. Sadly I did not know of any charity  out there that could cater for my beliefs. After 8 months of struggling to deal with my loss I was introduced to Children of Jannah, the only Islamic bereavment support in the UK helping to deal with child loss. Children of Jannah is a charity which aims to support parents to deal with their loss in the light of Islamic guidance. This closes a  gap in  service provision that will benefit many: as we create an environment for families to discuss their feelings and emotions.

Children of Jannah has a personal Facebook page for mothers and fathers separately where they can share their stories and experiences. It also delivers a telephone support line so that parents can speak to a trained volunteer confidentially.

The Imam of Bradford was pleased with the substantial support provided for parents by Children of Jannah, he said:

 “The Children of Jannah is a welcomed initiative that combines the offer of comfort and compassion through spiritual guidance at the time of bereavement. I would like to commend Children of Jannah charity and pray that Almighty Allah reward them for their efforts and good intentions.” Shaykh Muhammad Afzal Saeedi, President Minhaj-ul-Quran International UK

Another Imam said: “I want to congratulate Children of Jannah for producing this much needed information in a clear and accessible form. May Allah (God, the Most High) reward them for their endeavours.”    Imam Muhammad Asim MBE, Makkah Masjid, Leeds

Children of Jannah is the grief recovery charity that could help many other isolated parents deal with their grief. With their motivation and encouragement I have come to terms with my loss, and now I want to raise awareness so many other parents can receive this support. I am now the West Yorkshire Coordinator for the Children of Jannah charity and would like to talk with anyone who knows Muslim parents who may benefit, as I did, from this charity’s support.

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Website: www.ChildrenofJannah.com  Email: westyorkshire@childrenofjannah.com       Mobile: 07870660035                 Charity no: 1145936

Infant Loss, Inequality and why things should change

I went to a workshop  a couple of weeks ago about ‘Inequality and Infant Loss: Identifying the gaps in women’s networks’.

I learnt that the UK rate for infant mortality is 4.1 per thousand. But for Caribbean Women it is 9.7 per thousand, for Pakistani women it is 7.4 per thousand, for African women 7.4 per thousand and for teen mothers 5.4 per thousand births.

I also learnt that in Bradford and Airedale the only risk group that get caseloaded midwifery are the teen parents.  Their normal birth rate is 94%.

The highest risk groups in our city do not get caseloaded midwifery and we know this is affecting outcomes.  And outcomes are not just statistics but human beings lost and unnecessary grief and suffering.

One to One Midwifery came to Bradford and Airedale offering women caseloading care on the NHS with evidence of great outcomes elsewhere. They are being prevented from operating in our area because our local CCGs are both refusing to commission them or pay the invoices on non contracted activity.

At the same time local Trusts tell us that they cannot at this time deliver one to one midwifery care even to the most vulnerable and at risk groups in our city – except teen parents – who need it most.

These UK infant mortality rates reflect our experience in Bradford district over several years and I am saddened and disappointed that the people who have the power to make a difference – without paying extra  – are currently choosing not to do so.

Is there any one there who will answer?  Who will do something that will make a difference?